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Teen Summer Party Season: Controlling Kids’ Alcohol Intake

Teen Summer Party Season: Controlling Kids’ Alcohol Intake

 

While it’s highly unlikely that most parents will ever need alcohol rehab counselling in Kent for their kids, research suggests that more youngsters than ever before are drinking way, WAY too much alcohol.  It’s problematic the United Kingdom has developed the kind of culture where adolescent alcohol use and abuse has become something of a norm. It’s not that anyone genuinely believes it is a good thing, but it is also something that most fail to take adequate control of.

The thing is, attempting to manage and control the day to day lives of teenagers is borderline impossible. Particularly during the summer season, when all manner of parties and events bring teenagers together to get up to…well, whatever they can get away with!

Drinking alcohol is of course something of a priority for many youngsters, who routinely get together online to share various tips and guidelines on how to get away with it. Whether it’s disguising vodka in water bottles, adding spirits to soft drinks to completely hide their appearance or avoiding contact with adults entirely to avoid detection, teens have all manner of tricks up their sleeves when it comes to alcohol consumption.

Signs and Symptoms

So what are the kinds of warning signs parents should be on the lookout for, which could indicate that their kids are drinking far more than is good for their health?

Well, the chances of actually catching them in the act are comparatively low, but there are nonetheless certain common indicators that could indicate that they are (or at least have been) up to no good. These include overuse of perfumes and anything else that could hide the smell of alcohol, avoiding close contact with adults who may pick up on the smell, hiding away behind closed doors and generally avoiding contact, any evidence of the after effects of alcohol and so on.

The truth is, it can be difficult to know what to look out for them where to draw the line, given that all teenagers are different and therefore behave very differently. Nevertheless, it’s important to be on the lookout for anything that could constitute problematic behaviour, in order to ensure that it is brought in to check before being allowed to develop into anything more serious.

Out in the Open

As far as the vast majority of experts are concerned, the single worst thing you any parent can do is give the impression that alcohol is something of a taboo or prohibited subject. The more the issue is avoided or swept to one side, the more difficult it is to keep it under control. By contrast, the more open you are when it comes to discussing alcohol consumption and its associated effects, the more likely your kids are to both talk about it and approach the subject proactively.

The simple fact of the matter is that all teenagers will begin experimenting with a alcohol at some point, meaning there’s very little parents can do to prevent this from happening. It’s also often true to say that the more intensively parents try to control the actions of their teenage children, the more likely they are to rebel, just for the sake of it. As such, trying to convince your children never to touch alcohol or that alcohol is the devil incarnate simply isn’t going to work.  If anything, you’ll only steer them in the wrong direction.

Instead, it can be far more effective to accept the fact that they are going to drink and therefore help educate them as to the importance of doing so in moderation. By being realistic, it is significantly less likely that your teenage children will attempt to hide their alcohol consumption from you, or take things to extremes simply to prove a point. It’s not as if you should be directly encouraging your children to drink alcohol, but if you accept that it is at least a partial inevitability, you can be far more proactive with your chosen approach.

Speaking of encouragement, you cannot realistically expect your kids to take your advice on alcohol consumption seriously, if you yourself then enjoy alcohol in pretty heavy quantities. This is the kind of time in life where setting the right example really couldn’t be more important. Trying to adopt something of a “do as I say not as I do” approach will usually prove to be 100% ineffective, as far as teenagers are concerned.

If you set a bad example, you can rest assured they will probably follow it to the letter.

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Stop Drinking Completely? It Might Be Easier Than You Think

Stop Drinking Completely? It Might Be Easier Than You Think

Up and down the United Kingdom, alcohol detox clinics are finding themselves inundated with questions and queries from the general public. While the UK in general may have slipped into rather unfortunate and inadvisable drinking habits in general, more adults than ever before are being proactive when it comes to their own health and lifestyle choices. Not only are millions of adults actively seeking to cut down their alcohol intake, but plenty more have every intention of stopping drinking entirely.

To some, this might seem like a relatively ludicrous concept. If alcohol represents an integral part of your life and your lifestyle in general, cutting it out completely may seem impossible. In reality however, this isn’t the case it all.

Just to set the record straight – quitting alcohol is never easy, so don’t for one minute expect an easy ride. Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that it cannot be considerably easier than you may have thought. The problem being that if you convince yourself that it is going to be a difficult or impossible task, that is exactly what it will become. What’s more, you will only ever succeed in reducing your alcohol intake or cutting it out entirely if you know exactly why you have chosen to do so. Trying to quit just because you have been told to do so for example rarely breeds success.

But assuming that you have decided to quit alcohol entirely and for reasons you believe in, how can you help ensure you stick to your guns?

Make your intentions known

Well, the first and most important step in the process is to make everyone of your closest friends and family members aware of your intentions and tell them why you have made your decision. The reason being that if you just suddenly start turning down drinks, refusing to join your friends at the pub and behaving rather differently, chances are peer pressure will become a problem. By contrast, if you explain to them why it is you are doing what you are doing and make it clear to them that it is something you are serious about, there’s a much stronger chance they will offer their full support. And if they don’t, you might want to think carefully about exactly who you consider to be a friend.

Avoid temptation

Perhaps the most obvious tip of all is to ensure you stay as far away from temptation as possible. The simple fact of the matter is that if you are used to drinking five nights per week in the local pub and suddenly decide to stop, you cannot expect to continue attending the pub like you used to with a glass of orange juice. Even if you do, you’ll probably find it a living hell. The same also goes if you usually have an impressively extensive alcohol collection at home, which you have got used to indulging in pretty much every day after work. If it is there, the first time you have a hard day you are probably going to reach for the bottle. It can be a challenging process to say the least, but if you can ensure that you remain as far away from temptation as possible at all times, you may be surprised how much easier it becomes to quit.

Gradually reduce your drinking

Try to remember that there is a very good reason why a great many experts advise their clients to first think about cutting down, rather than going ‘cold turkey’ right off the bat. And that reason is that, the less you drink, the easier it can be to quit entirely. This usually tends to be simpler if you are already a heavy or habitual drinker, as by gradually reducing, you may find the process much easier to handle.

Reward progress

You absolutely must ensure that you are appropriately rewarding the progress you make, in order to give you some kind of incentive to continue. One way of doing this is to earmark every penny you save on alcohol to something you would not normally spend this kind of money on. A personal indulgence, a holiday or really anything else you can think of that will help motivate you to remain on the wagon.

Enjoy the benefits

Last but not least, it may be some time before you begin feeling and seeing the benefits of alcohol abstinence, but sooner or later they will show through. And when they do, you’ll find yourself with more energy, more vitality, more time and more positivity than ever before. Not only this, but you’ll also benefit from the knowledge that you have significantly reduced your likelihood of developing a wide range of serious and deadly diseases.

 

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Substance Abuse and Teenagers: Parental Resources

Substance Abuse and Teenagers: Parental Resources

Research carried out in the United States over recent years paints a rather troubling picture of teenage substance abuse. While it’s no secret that a great many teenagers experiment with drugs at least occasionally during their school and college years, it’s a problem that may be more prolific than most realise.  Not only have study shown that around 15% of children have tried cannabis before they reach the age of 15, that approximately 60% of teenagers say that drugs are sold and used in their schools. Incredibly, somewhere in the region of 5% of under-15s have tried cocaine at least once, while approximately 50% of all teenagers will try at least one drug during their education.

According to the experts at www.davidgoodlad.co.uk, parents of teenagers have considerably more influence and control over their children’s lives than they may realise. While it is of course impossible to keep an eye on adolescents 24 hours a day, there is still plenty parents can do to help. Needless to say, the most important of all being that of remaining vigilant at all times when it comes to the potential signs and symptoms of drug abuse. What’s important to remember is that there is a big difference between attempting to control a teenager’s life and actively looking out for their best interests. In the case of the latter, being careful not to cross the line into 24/7 snooping is important, albeit a rather difficult balancing act to pull off.

So with this in mind, what exactly are the kinds of tell-tale signs and indicators parents should be on the lookout for, when it comes to determining potential cases of drug or substance abuse?

  1. Physical appearance. First of all, it is entirely possible that they may that they may display certain physical signs of substance abuse, which may affect their appearance, hygiene and general presentation. For example, any seemingly inexplicable change in physical appearance – bloodshot eyes, flushed cheeks, complexion issues, burns etc. – could well be signs of substance abuse. Not only this, but an apparent intention to hide their physical appearance may also be a sign that they are trying to keep something away from your attention. While it is not to say that any changes in physical appearance confirm substance abuse of any kind, it is also important not to overlook anything out of the ordinary.
  2. Habits and behaviour. In terms of the kinds of signs and symptoms that may not be immediately visible, it is common for those entering into substance abuse to either suddenly are gradually begin changing their habits and behaviour. In some instances, happy, outgoing and confident individuals suddenly become much more reclusive. Right at the other end of the scale, quiet and shy individuals may inexplicably become incredibly outgoing, energetic and confident for no apparent reason. It may also be that they begin behaving in a manner which is not characteristic to them. Breaking curfews, irritability, mood swings and general rebelliousness can all be signs of something untoward behind the scenes. Once again, any or all of these do not necessarily indicate drug abuse, though should not be ignored.
  3. Health and wellbeing. There is also the possibility that you as a parent will simply notice that your child’s health and wellbeing seem to be taking a turn for the worst. It could be that they are becoming sick more often than they used to, that they’d generally do not seem to be in particularly good health, that they are suffering nose bleeds, that they are losing/gaining weight for no apparent reason and so on. There are of course thousands of reasons why a teenager may be suffering frequent bouts of sickness, but substance abuse is something that should not be ruled out of the equation before being investigated.
  4. Interests. Something else to be on the lookout for is an apparent change in interests – as in the kinds of activities and hobbies your child was previously interested in. It could be that somebody with a passion for sports suddenly has all interest in these kinds of activities entirely. Likewise, a teenager that was once highly social and loved spending time with friends may lose interest in social activities entirely. Where there is a significant change in behaviour and no obvious cause, it is a good idea to discuss what may or may not be happening.
  5. Performance. Last but not least, while it’s perfectly normal for a child’s in-school performance to fluctuate from time to time, any radical changes by way of grades, attendance or general performance in the classroom should be considered carefully. In the vast majority of instances, substance abuse will have absolutely nothing to do with why it is they appear to be under-performing. Nevertheless, it simply makes sense to rule it out of the equation, rather than sweeping it to one side and ignoring the possibility.
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When to Teach Children How to Use Appliances

When to Teach Children How to Use Appliances

As parents, we try to do our best and raise children to become happy, functional adults. However, this can be a challenging task in our ever-changing world. The influence you have on your children is in competition with the influence of their peers and with the media. Although at some point the child naturally wants to pull away from parents and look to other sources for survival information and social cues, the presence of media and social media in their lives and the lives of adults can accelerate the process. By the time your kid is twelve, it may be too late for you to instill new skills and values. However, starting too early can be dangerous for an inexperienced child. So how do you know when to teach children how to use appliances?

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When should you seek family counselling?

When should you seek family counselling?

Family is the environment that defines us. It is the place where we learn to make the first steps, utter the first words and learn basic notions about the world. Family members are the ones we first have contact with and the ones that help define our personalities. Most of the times, family is the only thing we can be sure of, a pillar that sustains us when we have problems or when there is no one else to turn to. If friends may betray us, relatives are tied by an almost unbreakable bond. Good family relationships have to be nurtured, however, and all members should take care to keep good communication and a relaxed atmosphere at the basis of a strong home. And yet, there are times when nothing seems to work and arguments inevitably appear. Sometimes things seem to drift away unknowingly, but other times there are certain events that can strongly shake the family’s foundation. When simply talking does not help, counselling is a modern solution that can significantly solve family tension. Forget about the couch myth and leave aside the pride of having to share problems with others. Going to a counsellor can often be a family saver- talking to one is like talking to a friend. Only this friend is a specialized individual who can provide you with a tactical approach. You can always install a hidden cam but better you should go to one whenever you feel there are negative aspects that overwhelm you. In general, you should contact a counsellor after critical events, such as:

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How does anger affect your relationship?

How does anger affect your relationship?

Relationships are complicated, no doubt about that and couples relationships even more than other types. They need hard work and constant attention and one thing they can’t afford is the destructive nature of feelings such as anger. Of course, there are numerous other issues and aspects that influence a relationship between two people, but anger seems to be a reoccurring affair within couples. It presents itself in many types of behavior and in frequent cases has very deep roots. But all types of anger in all forms of behavior are destructive and many couples seek for help in counseling. Anger management therapy and groups have become more and more popular, because people also became more and more aware of the effects of anger.

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