Coping With The Grief Of Losing A Family Member

Losing someone you love is a deeply painful experience. For many people it’s the most upsetting time in their life, and it can often seem like the raw pain will last forever. You aren’t alone in feeling this way. Whenever we lose someone close to us, it takes a significant amount of time before we stop looking back and we begin to look forward once more.

A wide range of events can trigger feelings of grief. These include being made unemployed, the end of a friendship, or the breakdown of a relationship. Death is a uniquely challenging issue to deal with, especially when a close family member is involved. The intensity of your grief is usually correlated to the consequences the loss will have on your life and whether or not you see any remedy to the situation. The finality of death, combined with your closeness to the person you lost, makes the process of grieving so slow and painful.

There are organizations that deal with grieving families every day, such as the American Cremation & Casket Alliance. These types of organizations see a variety of reactions to grief through their work, and will look to support you and your family in any way they can. Make sure to think about how the funeral can be arranged to make it most comfortable for you.

Always keep in mind that everyone experiences grief in different ways and that you should not feel the need to hold back your emotions during the service. You should also remember that crying is not necessary. A common misconception is that those who don’t cry may not feel as much pain, but this is untrue. Everyone expresses their feelings differently. Some are more predisposed to cry and find the process makes them feel better. Others feel buried in darkness, but may repress tears or feel a type of pain that does not compel them to cry.


Everyone grieves in different ways and takes different amounts of time to overcome the pain that they feel. The process could take weeks or years. One very important factor is to address your grief directly. Those who ignore it often struggle the most. Wishing grief away does not work, and openly expressing your feelings makes the process easier for yourself and others.

“When a loved one dies, you might be faced with grief over your loss again and again – sometimes even years later. Feelings of grief might return on the anniversary of your loved one’s death, birthday or other special days throughout the year,” explains Mayo Clinic.

Grief will often come and go in waves. One day you will feel better and the next you’ll feel worse. It is very important that you take good care of yourself and share your feelings with others, or else the pain will feel worse. If you feel it would be helpful, or the pain is too much to bear alone, speak with a therapist or join a local support group.

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